Our Code
1. EMBRACE SELF EXPRESSION
Express yourself honestly, directly, and with integrity. Learning to express yourself, to speak your truth, moment by moment is a crucial and lifelong practice. Become familiar with noticing and reporting your thoughts and feelings to yourself and to trusted individuals regularly. Embody your truth and follow through. Say what you mean and mean what you say with your actions. Be open and willing to express yourself at the risk of being disliked by others. Simultaneously, do not confuse speaking your truth with ignorance. Avoid emotional dishonesty and “people pleasing,” also known as “people deceiving.” Whether another likes or dislikes your truth has no impact on how lovable or worthy you are. You, and you alone, are the gate-keeper of what truth lands for you and what does not.
2. TAKE OWNERSHIP OF YOU
Take ownership of your thoughts, feelings, emotions and experience. Own your story. Nobody is responsible for this other than you. Stay curious and seek to understand the many layers of your human experience as you navigate the world. Make it a regular practice to discern what is “story” and what is “fact,” and the many nuances in-between. Report your mind to trusted individuals who can shine light on your blind spots. Remain open and curious to your experience with the intention of getting to know and love yourself, the good and the bad. Take ownership of all your parts. Take ownership of you.
3. KNOW YOUR ESSENCE
Your essence is your true self, your wise leader. It is the whisper in your soul that suggests this way instead of that as you embark on your expansive journey through life. However, many of us ignore this whisper in favour of whispers from external forces. The more that you explore and understand these distinctions for yourself, the more you will come to know your essence, and the more your outer world will match your inner work. As you explore, learn to identify and understand your boundaries and how to implement them in your life to honour your needs.
4. CULTIVATE INNER STRENGTH
All of us have a comfort zone and a growth zone. While both are needed, you will not grow if you spend your life in your comfort zone. Step outside of it often. Cultivate your resilience by taking responsible risks. Explore what being bold and courageous means to you and implement these behaviours in your life regularly. Learn to ask for what you need, for there is tremendous strength in opening yourself up to and accepting support from others. Be open to feedback and be willing to explore what resonates with you and what does not.
5. LEARN TO RECEIVE
Learn to receive gracefully from yourself and others. Be well-versed in the ways of filling up your cup and how to lean into others to help you do the same. Become familiar with what having a full, half, or empty cup feels like as this will be an indicator to nourish yourself with self care or ask for support. When you need support, learn to ask directly for what you need. Be kind and gentle with yourself as you learn to receive, and remind yourself that you are worthy.
6. FIND YOUR UNIQUE OFFERING
Lean into the challenge of finding your unique offering, your true calling, your purpose. Let go of any preconceived idea of what this means, and take time to explore what your purpose means to you. As a starting point, ask yourself: what exactly is it in this world that lights you up? Give yourself permission to not know for a while. When you begin to spot the light, or lights, in your path, move towards it responsibly. While it is useful to explore different things, avoid excessive “busy-ness” and over-scheduling so you can remain true to uncovering your unique purpose.
7. LOVE AND HONOUR YOUR BODY AND ITS CYCLES
Your body is a magical, complex labyrinth of feelings and deep wisdom. Your body is always speaking to you, and to interpret these signals, you must commit to taking care of it and learning its language. Nourish your body with healthy food, water and plenty of rest. Establish a regular sleep routine. Find a movement practice (yoga, dancing, running, etc.), a physical activity where you can celebrate and strengthen your body. If you moon, learn how to track your moon cycle and become familiar with the ebbs and flows of your energies. If you do not moon, explore what cycles your body goes through regularly and track this instead. Make loving and honouring your body and its cycles a daily practice, and be gentle with yourself as you do so.
8. RAISE YOUR COMMUNITY
Explore what connection means to you and connect with your fellow sisters. Listen to one another. Help one another. Honour one another. Hold each other in sadness and in grief. In anger and in fury. In happiness and in celebration. Celebrate one another and spread your light together. Make it a point to seek out vulnerable connections. No matter what, avoid triangulation, gossiping, and colluding with your sisters (or with anyone else), for this severs rather than serves connection. Notice what prevents you from connecting with others and challenge anything that feels limiting, contractual, or avoidant. In this way, you can connect with what would otherwise keep you separate from. Through connection, we build community. We are more resilient together.
9. SURRENDER
Do not judge or rush your process. We are all on completely different journeys and it is disserving to compare them. Give yourself regular periods to slow down and breathe. If you are overwhelmed and feel like you have a million and one things to do, take a breath. Sometimes, the best way through is to surrender to what is. Surrendering may seem frightening because we give up the illusion of control. We also see things more clearly when we surrender to the way things are. Allow yourself the time and grace needed to surrender to your life, and to your Inner Wild. There is incredible power in trusting your journey. You are exactly where you need to be.
